..............It is just the way it is, and that is all. I can't force you to change your mind, and I won't nag you or beg you. If you s d don't want to, you don't want to. I've always believed you be with the people you want to be with; you make the effort (and it is ot n usually such a BIG effort) because you simply WANT to. It's not a constant struggle. The desire to see them is greater.... 2.