why does flirting get under our skin? it gets under our skin because it t can be uncomfortable in multi- ple senses.in one way ot can i i i be hard to watch simple y y y because you wish to be able to achieve the level of sexual tension the coup le in front of you are emitting. in another it can be uncomforta- ble because it seems like an inti imate moment better shared behin d closed doors.